Dating and courtship in modern society
"A relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other" puts marriage on the table when the couple have not yet committed to such an end.This is no different than dating when two people get too intimate too fast (I do not mean sexually) and give away a piece of their heart. I am now married to a wonderful Christian man and we have 4 children.As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.Receiving God’s grace and the support of others strengthens them to maintain their commitment to purity.Since the boundaries of the relationship are self-determined, the couple may easily succumb to temptation and fail to consider their responsibility to honor each other in purity and genuine love.
While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.
(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.
Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person.
Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date.