Jappanese dating customs
I’ve included my thoughts as a Westerner on Japanese dating culture for that reason.Virgin or veteran, I feel for any Westerner or Easterner who dates or aspires to date inter-culturally this is worth a read. You might just understand the other half a little better after this.If the other returns those feelings, then they become boyfriend and girlfriend.The relationship then proceeds as relationships between boyfriends and girlfriends do. At the point of kokuhaku is where we consider two people to begin dating.So far as physical intimacy after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend: I believe everything is fair game.Eastern cultures don’t have the religious stigma of sex before marriage being a sin, so most are open to premarital sex.Love is a very powerful word and concept in English.
The Westerner will think the Easterner isn’t interested in a relationship with him/her.
I can best describe it as courting with initial ambiguity.
Things also move much more slowly than in the west.
If you can, you may break off from the group as to only talk with each other. After several outings like this, say five or six, you may ask to do something just the two of you. After spending time together outside of the group for a while, also probably five or six times, one person will confess their love for the other.
This is called “kokuhaku,” and is in most cases done by the man.