Rihanna talks about her dating life
A lot of it stems from the things that I've seen in my life as a child. Like, getting dressed, I want to pick the most bizarre pair of shorts so I can figure out how to make it look right, or work an outfit that will make people go, "What the hell is she wearing? It's about wanting revenge, because you just feel like no one can understand what you're feeling unless you burn them the way they burned you.
GLAMOUR: Does that mean you naturally look for trouble? " You know, whatever it is, a challenge is just thrilling for me. GLAMOUR: Now all these impressionable young girls are singing your songs. And that was at a time when I didn't really want to be angry but I couldn't help it, and "Fire Bomb" [released in 2009] was like that therapeutic song for me.
When I was singing it, it was a fun song, and I directed it at my love-hate relationship with the media, but it went so much further than that, and I didn't even realize it. I would say my relationship with my father has had a bigger impact on me than I knew.
Then I started putting pieces of the puzzle together, seeing how it related to my childhood and how it can affect me in my adult life. Even with the things that I love, the things that I am attracted to. But at the same time, nothing bothers me more than when life's perfect. I just love a challenge, whether it's a relationship, my career, clothing…. It's not the most positive message; it's just honest.
I got into a new relationship, and it matters to me.
"If you’re not happy, you’re not going to be happy even doing things that you love doing. I’ve made little things a big deal, like going for a walk or going to the grocery store.
What comes through more than anything is a tale of transformation: In February 2009, Rihanna endured the abuse of Chris Brown and the subsequent gossip frenzy. GLAMOUR: Your style has gotten more aggressive as your music has. RIHANNA: Absolutely, and I don't think of one without the other.
It was painful, she tells me, to lose control of her story and image that way; determined not to let that happen again, she has since reemerged as the architect of her own fascinating comeback. My music definitely determines the direction we're gonna move in. GLAMOUR: There are so many pop stars who blow up and then lose control.
After that, it's hard to go back to doing songs that are fiction. GLAMOUR: I've heard you say that the dramatic lyrics of "S&M," your megahit, are both metaphorical and literal. I had no idea how close "S&M" was to me until maybe five months ago.
You've had 10, and you're the youngest artist to ever hit that mark—you topped Mariah Carey. I've never actually seen this list laid out like this. We had a young fan base, and they were trying to keep me fresh. I wanted to be sassy, the attitude, all these things that I am.
Plus, you did it faster than any solo artist in 's history: less than five years to 10 number ones. GLAMOUR: Your sound keeps evolving too, and your lyrics keep getting more complicated and raw. came right after that, and that's when I realized, OK, my fans love the music; now I need to get a little deep with them, get a little more vulnerable, open up. I was like, "Twitter is so dumb—why would I want anybody to know anything more about me?
She started prioritizing time for herself more."It’s only the last couple years that I started to realize that you need to make time for yourself, because your mental health depends on it," she started. My career is my purpose, and it should never feel like anything other than a happy place.
Earlier in the interview, Rihanna talked a little about how her relationship with Jameel was among the things that changed her work-life balance.