The ugly truth rules for dating
You know pretty quickly if someone is into you or if you are into them.
Whether it’s via text, at a bar or Steak ‘n Shake, “hard to get” is a thing of the past.
If I’m not interested, it’s not a turn-off, but it does become annoying if they continually text you first when you don’t show interest.” No surprises here – Weekday texts are more conversational, and are meant to serve as distractions while at work. Weekend texts tend to get more flirtatious, and the senders are more likely to have a drink in the other hand (you don’t say).
Ben, 27, cautions the tipsy texters: “Once you start drinking, you start texting less with your brain and more with your emotions, which can lead to a disaster the drunker that you get.” When asked the difference between a “weekday” text and a “weekend” text, Nate, 30, says that there isn’t one – “unless it is after midnight and the bars are closing.” I feel compelled here to remind everyone of the Jersey Shore wisdom of “Nothing good happens after A. David, 20, dislikes communicating through texts “because of the inability to convey emotions properly through words.” Nate, 30, would also opt out: “I am more of a phone caller, [it] shows more intimacy.” Unfortunately, the fear that the guy’s inbox is full of conversations with other girls may be a valid concern.
Ben, 27, last ghosted a girl after a first [Tinder] date.
“She had a lot of baggage,” he explains, “and brought up that she recently broke up with a boyfriend she had been dating for several years…
When you’re texting someone that you like and they are hard to get, it’s nauseating, exciting, and thrilling, waiting for someone to respond – the fact that it’s new and unknown is exciting.
A lot of these rules are generated by society and pop culture, and dictate how we converse with one another.
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“I’m not one for games,” he says, “and the older I get, the less and less I play them.
But being hard to get is definitely a game and I think it totally depends on the type of person you are.
Each individual has a different threshold of “hard to get” that they are willing to tolerate.